Our community has always enjoyed an advantage to those chasing the growth tide of the hentai industry. We understand fairly well incels (involuntarily celibates). And because of this understanding, we’re able to have positive relationships with complicated and diverse customers from around the world.
Buckle up, because today we talk about how to have positive customer relationships with social recluses, sexual failures, mentally unstable folks, the sociopathic types, and more anarchic fun.
This blog entry is part of our series on how to become a better online sex worker.
Most important is focusing on their potential. Sexually failed men and women are full of wasted potential that makes them tragically beautiful. You simply cannot stop seeing the potential, even when it’s fading fast, or you’ll give up hope, and then you lose empathy, and then lose the customer.
Incels are not always virgins. The ones I’ve spoken with often had girlfriends, even several. But as those relations soured, repeatedly soured, they became hypersensitive to sensing cues and circumstances that lead to rejection. The psychology gets complicated, because their gripes about society, structure of the economy, the power dynamics in gender relations, cultural issues, are often valid observations.
For anything to disrupt the natural flow of one’s life, that they never find someone to connect with emotionally and physically, must be catastrophic. So you’re dealing with, more than likely, individuals who have some kind of trauma. Handling this expertly is part of the business.
The truth is, in some countries, relationships are more difficult than others. Attitudes may not have adjusted to the myriad of changes that have shaped the dating market and marriage. Countries where no-fault divorce is possible, the culture encourages women’s individualism, society enables hypergamy with freely available contraceptives and liberal abortion laws, are difficult to navigate.
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Heavy emphasis on the word navigate. Because you can absolutely have successful long-term relationships in messy countries with their messy people. The difficulty-level is simply astronomical.
An incel sees the IRL dating game set on hard-mode and doesn’t even want to try. It’s discouraging to them, which is why, whenever I talk with incels, I actually encourage them to moderate their porn consumption and seek relationships, putting their sexual impulse into productive work.
You want to leverage the motivation that the pursuit of relationships ignites, as this begets long-term positive behaviors, such as learning new skills, reading good books, striking conversations, taking care of your health. Because if you spiritually give up, you will physically give up. And then life gets dark.
Porn companies that only focus on extracting resources from social recluses are often toxic workplaces. You have to engage your customers in an honest dialog that seeks to re-ignite their passion.
I worked in several toxic companies over the years, which brought me to total clarity. It’s those horribly dark experiences why I choose to write these blog entries in between content posts. I seek to build positive relationships with you, our readers. Because despite the difficulty of this dialog, and the constant failures and financial losses I suffer when attempting it, the other option does not exist.
My clarity came about in 2019. I received a diagnosis on my health. My lifespan is likely reduced by 20-30 years, because of damage that years of stress have done to my body.
The stress was a result of how this industry operates. If your company makes the mistake of focusing on pure resource extraction, you will eventually find yourself trapped and isolated.
The isolation comes from having to maintain an image in the eyes of multiple stakeholders who hold power over your financial fate. You play this game with communities, your co-workers, search engines, banks, payment processors, etc. The more socially connected you get, the less you can express yourself.
Again, these are not just my own experiences. I worked with big people. Saw from up close their existential crises kick in, wrecking them and their businesses. Some bought rope. The dark energy of your sexually failed customers and the illusions they live in brings down your consciousness level to where you experience constant angst, hate, regret, distrust, isolation. Every social interaction becomes a hollow strategy game. You are soon surrounded by estranged folks you feel nothing for. Depression, stress, health issues, relationship trouble, everything follows from the choice to be a spineless coward.
It takes endurance to stay honest, because it’s self-destructive. The abuse comes from every direction. Most businesses curtail their honesty in order to avoid the abuse. You will not have the courage to keep the path of intellectual integrity, if you haven’t experienced the other option. I saw it to its end.
Honest dialog is like dancing, it’s prancing around the edges of a minefield that can blow your legs off. That’s the thrill and the reason why most folks default to being spineless cowards. You have to practice honesty consistently in order to get good at it, and you won’t get there without taking risks.
From the start of your interaction with someone, encourage them to be frank with you. Otherwise you’ll never get the feedback you actually need to refine your social skills. They’ll say infuriating things, so constantly train your mind stronger and stronger, until you can endure all criticism. However, this is most important: Because honesty is the rare trait of socially dominant people, never expect reciprocity on this. You let them be totally real with you, while refining your diplomacy in their direction.
Do this, and everyone sucks your dick. Have fun!
