Let’s get personal. Have you tried having a romantic relationship in the current age? Chances are, it was wonderful when it was wonderful. But for reasons neither of you quite understood, you two kept running into arguments. It’s like you were pulled into different directions. She was working on her career, while you were working hard forging your path. You had plans together, oh, what wonderful plans! But she had a lofty ambition that required all her time, massive personal sacrifices and much understanding from you. You suspended your plans and emotional needs, until she’d reached her goal. And as you sacrificed your own needs for hers, a commitment she forgot to recognize while she was busy, you began to hate her. Then came along another girl, younger one, you had great chemistry and talking with her seemed so easy.
Tragically, these career women are beginning to turn thirty and they’re not happy. They are slowly beginning to discover that sacrificing relationships to be competitive in the job market is a path to a lifetime of loneliness.
More reading: Women’s happiness is declining according to studies. Article 1, article 2, article 3.
The job market is merciless. You’re constantly competing for attention, for opportunities, for promotions. If you’re not putting down your best performance consistently, you’re quickly replaced by someone more energetic and ambitious.
There is a natural double-standard. And it cannot be overcome with policy or propaganda. A man who dedicates himself to his work has their sexual options expand as they get older. Youth is barely an asset for a man, but it’s the most vital asset to a woman. Because once you’re unable to conceive, you’re no longer a long-term investment.
Maybe my bitter anecdote doesn’t vibe with you. The video is kind of boring, I admit. Maybe it was something else that happened between you two, but my point is this: Two people cannot be sacrificing the relationship for their careers. It won’t work. There must be a division of labor, a hierarchy of priorities that places family at the top. If she’s sacrificing her career to support yours, you must be worthy of that support. You both have to be useful to each other, so you can run a successful household together. As the man, you must provide her absolute security, so she’ll be fine, even in the event of your death. And your emotional needs must be priority to her. When your co-dependence is a mutual top priority, you’ll both be sacrificing things for your relationship, rather than sacrificing the relationship for better careers. Love usually grows from that reciprocity.
How modern women can judge single life superior to creating actual life is unfathomable.
In this modern digital day, a housewife can work casually from home while tending to kids. You can work remotely. Study online without neglecting parental duties. Taking care of laundry and household chores has never been easier, thanks to machines. You’re going to have time to pursue dreams. Why not delay career ambitions to your 40s? If you have kids in your 20s, they’ll have moved from home by your 40s. By that time, your husband will be so successful, because you’ve helped him achieve his full potential, he can provide the initial investment and the knowhow to get your business idea going.
But this isn’t how most women are arranging their affairs these days. Modern women are taught to not rely on men, taught to prioritize their needs over yours and their career ambitions over your ambitions. Your role as the man is merely to be an entertainer, easily replaced when you’re no longer fun. You’re not a provider, you’re not a protector, you’re not the head of the household. You are demolished in the court in the event of a divorce, lose the kids, lose your health and your wealth.
Modern men have no reason to take this deal. This deal is horse shit.
Read part 1. Read part 3. Also read macro-economic context for why you’re alone.
